Control is a big issue in many homes today. It is deeply rooted in cultural and religious upbringings many of us have.
Now, not only is this approach and mindset negative because it begins the union on lack of trust, it is actually nowhere near effective even for that which is intended.
You’d imagine if a woman can grow up as she did and still find her way to you voluntarily, she is mature enough to make her own choices. Yes, there are exceptional cases of very questionable pasts but then you cannot force it . Such is the nature of what many signed up for in desperation to be married or from not having a say in the betrothal. Yet, many of us had the chance to take it slow and avoid this. In the hasty desires to be married, many signed up for arrangements similar to modern day slavery with restricted movements, speech, contacts and endeavours.