This Man Asked His Girlfriend's Father For His Blessing Before Proposing, And It Sparked A Big Argument Over Sexist Traditions
"The tradition of getting a father's blessing is because women were considered property of their fathers until they got married, and then they became their husbands' property. This is a sexist and outdated tradition."In recent years, many old-school wedding traditions have been criticized as sexist. Customs surrounding the father of the bride, such as walking his daughter down the aisle and handing her to her new husband, have especially come under fire.
"Okay, first of all, sorry for any mistakes — English is a second language, and I'm still processing what just happened. So, I've been dating my girlfriend for a bit more than a year. She's the perfect girl for me: She's hot, caring, and smart, and we both love each other very much. I've been thinking about proposing for a while; my girlfriend is almost done with school, and I have a good job with a lot of savings.
It may have been ill-timed, as it seems you haven't really felt out the situation with her yet, and she's only 22. You are being called out here because you expected her dad to have an answer when he can't answer without knowing what SHE'D want him to say. It's not something she'd ever talked to him about because you didn't talk to her about marriage. For future proposals, find out ahead of time if the girlfriend would want you to ask her dad.
I have a lot of thoughts about this one! While I personally wouldn't want a BF to ask for my father's blessing because of the historical context, I understand that everyone's different, and maybe OP is from a culture where that's the norm.